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In traditional Hindu families like ours, men provided and women were provided for. My father was a patriarch and I a pliant daughter. The neighborhood I'd grown up in was homogeneously Hindu, Bengali-speaking, and middle-class. I didn't expect myself to ever disobey or disappoint my father by setting my own goals and taking charge of my future.

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Bharati Mukherjee
Age: 76 †
Born: 1940
Born: July 27
Died: 2017
Died: January 28
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