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The longer we listen to one another - with real attention - the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.

Barbara Deming

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Barbara Deming
Age: 67 †
Born: 1917
Born: July 23
Died: 1984
Died: August 2
Journalist
Writer
New York City
New York
Life
Attention
Exchange
Peace
Opinions
Lives
Diversity
Culture
Careful
Another
Listen
Stories
Longer
Find
Simply
Real
Opinion
Commonality

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Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences.
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To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.
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Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
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The injunction that we should love our neighbors as ourselves means to us equally that we should love ourselves as we love our neighbors.
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After the revolution, let us hope, prisons simply would not exist - if by prisons we mean places that could be experienced by the men and women in them at all as every place that goes by that name now is bound to be experienced.
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