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The longer we listen to one another - with real attention - the more commonality we will find in all our lives. That is, if we are careful to exchange with one another life stories and not simply opinions.

Barbara Deming

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Barbara Deming
Age: 67 †
Born: 1917
Born: July 23
Died: 1984
Died: August 2
Journalist
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New York City
New York
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Peace
Diversity
Lives
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Our own pulse beats in every stranger's throat.
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Nonviolent actions are by their nature androgynous. In them the two impulses that have long been treated as distinct, 'masculine' and 'feminine,' the impulse of self-assertion and the impulse of sympathy, are clearly joined the very genius of nonviolence, in fact, is that it demonstrates them to be indivisible, and so restores human community.
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A great many of us must move from words to acts - from words of dissent to acts of disobedience.
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People may find it more comfortable to listen to us if we equivocate, but in the long run only words that discomfort them are going to change our situation.
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I think the only choice that will enable us to hold to our vision. . . is one that abandons the concept of naming enemies and adopts a concept familiar to the nonviolent tradition: naming behavior that is oppressive.
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Think first of the action that is right to take, think later about coping with one's fears.
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There should be no censorship of mail.
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After the revolution, it might very well remain necessary to place people where they could not do harm to others. But the one under restraint should be cut off from the rest of society as little as possible.
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Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try - by punishing the troublesome - to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.
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Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.
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Nonviolent tactics can move into action on our behalf men not naturally inclined to act for us.
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Surely all of us are nerved by one another, catch courage from one another.
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I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others - even others better than I am.
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What is the revolution that we need? We need to dissolve the lie that some people have a right to think of other people as their property. And we need at last to form a circle that includes us all, in which all of us are seen as equal... We do not belong to the other, but our lives are linked we belong in a circle of others.
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The point is to change one's life. The point is not to give some vent to the emotions that have been destroying one the point is so to act that one can master them now.
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Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences.
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After the revolution, let us hope, prisons simply would not exist - if by prisons we mean places that could be experienced by the men and women in them at all as every place that goes by that name now is bound to be experienced.
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To resort to power one need not be violent, and to speak to conscience one need not be meek.
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