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in all codependent relationships, the rescuer needs the victim as much as the victim needs the rescuer.

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Barbara De Angelis
Age: 73
Born: 1951
Born: March 4
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Psychologist
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When I look for happiness, I lose it. When I stop looking, and surrender to where I am, I find it.
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It is inherent in human consciousness to improve. So there is nothing unique about a people searching for and creating ways to make their life better - all civilizations throughout history have done this. What is unique about us in America is the accelerated rate at which we continually search for novelty and progress.
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No one betrays us as much in our lives as we betray ourselves.
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If your day is full of little mean, dark thoughts, is it any wonder you feel crabby? Maybe it's because you let your mind run wild like a dog putting its nose into garbage everywhere.
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May all that is not love within us and without be healed. May all that is love within us and without us be revealed. May every day of our lives be lived in love.
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Temporary feelings of regret are a normal part of the mourning process. This helps us retrieve our lost dreams. If we hold on to regret, we risk trapping ourselves in a prison of unrealized dreams from which it is difficult to escape.
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Women need real moments of solitude and self reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.
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I have experienced a lifetime of real moments, and many of them were happy moments.
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If you let your mind talk you out of things that aren't logical, you're going to have a very boring life. Because grace isn't logical. Love isn't logical. Miracles aren't logical.
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One of the most courageous things we do is change. If everyone says you're wonderful every time you wear a red dress, and you change to yellow, that takes courage.
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Happiness is not an acquisition - it is a skill. We do not experience happiness because of what we get. We experience happiness because of how we live each moment.
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If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself.
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I just want to get a Ph.D. in love.
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It is easy to be mindless in America, because dreaming of and living for a better tomorrow is the American way. ... The problem is, in the second half of the twentieth century, we have gotten so good at living for tomorrow that most of us spend very little time in the present.
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Silence has a regenerative power of its own. It is always sacred. It always returns you home.
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The obstacles in our path are not blocking us-they are redirecting us. Their purpose is not to interfere with our happiness it is to point us toward new routes to our happiness, new possibilities, new doorways.
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The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make on your wedding day, and over and over again and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband.
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What allows us, as human beings, to psychologically survive life on earth, with all of its pain, drama, and challenges, is a sense of purpose and meaning
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A wise word is more rare than the green emerald, and one can find the word of wisdom even amongst the slave girls making grain.
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You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back. The heart will break... but broken live on.
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