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We cannot settle for the pretenses of connection, or for the parodies of self-love.

Audre Lorde

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Audre Lorde
Age: 58 †
Born: 1934
Born: February 18
Died: 1992
Died: November 17
Essayist
Feminist
Librarian
Novelist
Poet
University Teacher
Writer
New York City
New York
Audre Geraldine Lorde
Connection
Connections
Cannot
Parodies
Self
Pretenses
Love
Parody
Pretense
Settle
Settling

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