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You are never in love with anyone. You're only in love with your prejudiced and hopeful idea of that person.

Anthony de Mello

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Anthony de Mello
Age: 55 †
Born: 1931
Born: September 4
Died: 1987
Died: June 2
Philosopher
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Bombay
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