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The three most difficult things for a human being are not physical feats or intellectual achievements. They are, first, returning love for hate second, including the excluded third, admitting that you are wrong.

Anthony de Mello

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Anthony de Mello
Age: 55 †
Born: 1931
Born: September 4
Died: 1987
Died: June 2
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You are never in love with anyone. You're only in love with your prejudiced and hopeful idea of that person.
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The day you are happy for no reason whatsoever, the day you find yourself taking delight in everything and in nothing, you will know that you have found the land of unending joy called the kingdom.
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The way to really live is to die. The passport to living is to imagine yourself in your grave. Imagine you're lying in your coffin....Now look at your problems from that viewpoint. Changes everything, doesn't it?
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It's only when you become love - in other words, when you have dropped your illusions and attachments - that you will know. As you identify less and less with the me, you will be more at ease with everybody and with everything.
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You do not have to change for God to love you.
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A disciple said to him, I am ready, in the quest for God , to give up anything: wealth, friends, family, country, life itself. What else can a person give up? The Master calmly replied, One's beliefs about God.
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When God means you to be a healer he sends you patients when he makes you a teacher he sends you pupils when he destines you to be a Master he sends you stories.
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Understand your darkness and it will vanish then you will know what light is. Understand your nightmare for what it is and it will stop then you will wake up to reality. Understand your false beliefs and they will drop then you will know the taste of happiness.
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When the eye is unobstructed, the result is sight. When the ear is unobstructed, the result is hearing. When the mind is unobstructed the result is truth. When the heart is unobstructed, the result is joy and love.
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Love springs from awareness.
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What is love? The total absence of fear, said the Master What is it we fear? Love, said the Master.
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Because you cannot see outside of you what you fail to see inside.
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the tragedy of an attachment is that if its object is not attained it causes unhappiness. But if it is attained, it does not cause happiness – it merely causes a flash of pleasure followed by weariness, and it is always accompanied, of course, by the anxiety that you may lose the object of your attachment.
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The present moment is never intolerable. What's intolerable is what's going to happen in the next four hours. To have your body here at 8 pm and your mind at 10:30 pm, that's what causes us suffering.
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The words of the scholar are to be understood. The words of the master are not to be understood. They are to be listened to as one listens to the wind in the trees and the sound of the river and the song of the bird. They will awaken something within the heart that is beyond all knowledge.
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The Master made it his task to destroy systematically every doctrine, every belief, every concept of the divine, for these things, which were originally intended as pointers, were now being taken as descriptions. He loved to quote the Eastern saying When the sage points to the moon, all that the idiot sees is the finger.
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As the Japanese Zen masters say, “Don't seek the truth just drop your opinions”. Drop your theories don't seek the truth.
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You can never be free as long as you have an ego to defend.
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Don't ask the world to change....you change first.
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