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Self-pity is never useful. It tends to distort like a fun-house mirror.

Anne Roiphe

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Anne Roiphe
Age: 89
Born: 1935
Born: December 25
Essayist
Film Writer
Journalist
Novelist
Writer
New York City
New York
Pity
Mirrors
Fun
House
Self
Distort
Never
Tends
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Mirror
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Reader, you forget that economics precedes religion worship grew out of eating, not the other way around.
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