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being a parent is not transaction ... we do not get what we give. It is the ultimate pay-it-forward endeavor: we are good parents not so they will be loving enough to stay with us but so they will be strong enough to leave us.

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Anna Quindlen
Age: 72
Born: 1952
Born: July 8
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Philadelphia
Pennsylvania
Anna Marie Quindlen
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