We mute the realization of malevolence- which is too threatening to bear - by turning offenders into victims themselves and by describing their behavior as the result of forces beyond their control.

It wasn't so hard being like your parents or 180 degrees the other way. What was hard was not being one way or the other.

Once, in a three-day taping that included several sadists, the material was so overwhelming that both the film crew and I got sick - I with a sinus infection, and the entire film crew with a flu so severe they had to delay their departure from the motel. Our immune systems had weakened, I believe, from the beating out souls had taken.

Somebody needs to invent a shower for the mind, not just the body.

narcissists ... have the least sense of self of anybody on the planet.