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If you are married and you go off and have an affair with someone, if you are a husband who does that, it may potentially hurt your wife enormously. But it seems to me likely also to compromise your marriage. That seems to me to be a harm.

Andrew Solomon

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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Clinical Psychologist
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