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I understand why there would be prohibitions on straying from monogamy because of the harm that it does not only to the person who is betrayed, but also to the person who is betraying. Betray is a sort of shorthand for what happens.

Andrew Solomon

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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