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The tragedies that are being brought about vastly outweigh the benefits that are being achieved.

Andrew Solomon

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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Clinical Psychologist
Journalist
Novelist
Writer
Manhattan borough
New York City
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