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I had known a couple of people who had died, but the loss of my mother contained something of the profoundly unknowable.

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
Author
Clinical Psychologist
Journalist
Novelist
Writer
Manhattan borough
New York City
Died
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Mother
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Unknowable
People
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Profoundly

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