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If your love didn't always contain the possibility of loss, it would be very different from human love as we know it.

Andrew Solomon

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 60
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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Clinical Psychologist
Journalist
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Manhattan borough
New York City
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