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The idea of anyone contemplating our family and witnessing the affection that we all have for one another and seeing evil in it is deeply hurtful and sad and also deeply bewildering.

Andrew Solomon

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
Author
Clinical Psychologist
Journalist
Novelist
Writer
Manhattan borough
New York City
Ideas
Deeply
Seeing
Anyone
Evil
Bewildering
Family
Witnessing
Idea
Hurtful
Another
Contemplating
Also
Affection

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