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I encounter a lot of prejudice and a lot of darkness. I have to negotiate constantly through situations that are uncomfortable or difficult or strange.

Andrew Solomon

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
Author
Clinical Psychologist
Journalist
Novelist
Writer
Manhattan borough
New York City
Constantly
Darkness
Strange
Negotiate
Situation
Encounter
Difficult
Encounters
Situations
Uncomfortable
Prejudice

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