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The absence of words is the absence of intimacy. There are experiences that are starved for language.

Andrew Solomon

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
Author
Clinical Psychologist
Journalist
Novelist
Writer
Manhattan borough
New York City
Experiences
Words
Language
Starved
Intimacy
Absence

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