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I spent years thinking I had to make a choice between being true to myself and being with a man and not having a family, and trying to live something of a lie and being with a woman and having children.

Andrew Solomon

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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Clinical Psychologist
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