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Kids with Down syndrome are, by and large, quite affectionate and relatively guileless, and frequently, the attachments to them grow and deepen. And the meaning that parents find in it grows and deepens.

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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