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I had always thought of myself as fairly tough and fairly strong and fairly able to cope with anything. And then I had a series of personal losses. My mother died. A relationship that I was in came to end, and a variety of other things went awry.

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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Clinical Psychologist
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