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You need to take the traumas and make them part of who you've come to be, and you need to fold the worst events of your life into a narrative of triumph, evincing a better self in response to things that hurt.

Andrew Solomon

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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If I understand correctly, part of the objection to homosexuality used to have to do with the fact that gay people didn't reproduce. Part of it seems to have to do, as a lot of Christian resistance to gayness does, with a dim view of sex that is not procreative, and that is therefore lascivious.
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I have spent a lot of my life trying to do good and be a humanitarian, to write about difficult places, and to tell the story of oppressed peoples.
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I don't understand what the nature of God is. But I do have the feeling that I'm at some feet, and lucky to be there.
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There is a great deal of sin that comes from homosexuals who believe their homosexuality is a sin.
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