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You need to take the traumas and make them part of who you've come to be, and you need to fold the worst events of your life into a narrative of triumph, evincing a better self in response to things that hurt.

Andrew Solomon

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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Clinical Psychologist
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New York City
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Religion is so focused on family. These days, for many people, being gay is also focused on family.
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I spent years thinking I had to make a choice between being true to myself and being with a man and not having a family, and trying to live something of a lie and being with a woman and having children.
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Parenthood abruptly catapults us into a permanent relationship with a stranger.
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I found myself losing interest in almost everything, I didn't want to do any of the things I had previously wanted to do and I didn't know why. Everything there was to do seemed like too much work. The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality, and it was vitality that seemed to seep away from me in that moment.
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Being gay is immutable. Maybe someday we'll figure out more of the science and it will be changeable, but we have no leads so far.
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I would certainly not want my child to be schizophrenic. I wouldn't want him or her to be a criminal either. If, on the other hand, I had a deaf child, it would help that I have developed a real admiration for Deaf culture.
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Oppression breeds the power to oppose it.
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I think you can't deny that because the cochlear implant exists, the signing world is shrinking.
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I like the relative literacy of at least some of England. I mean, I didn't come for the food or the weather!
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Ease makes less of an impression on us than struggle.
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I believe that words are strong, that they can overwhelm what we fear when fear seems more awful than life is good.
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The campaign against polygamy, around which a lot of anti-Mormon sentiment was organized, seems horrific to me.
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The absence of words is the absence of intimacy. There are experiences that are starved for language.
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The thing that makes me really outraged, is the idea that the Mormon Church would presume to get involved in decisions that have little to do with Mormonism.
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And I found out about the wonderful world of sign language. I suddenly realized: If we as a society recognize Jewish culture, gay culture and Latino culture, we must recognize that this is a coherent culture, too. I think deafness is a disability for social constructionist reasons.
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There is a great deal of sin that comes from homosexuals who believe their homosexuality is a sin.
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I hated being depressed, but it was also in depression that I learned my own acreage, the full extent of my soul.
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