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You need to take the traumas and make them part of who you've come to be, and you need to fold the worst events of your life into a narrative of triumph, evincing a better self in response to things that hurt.

Andrew Solomon

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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