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That, in essence, is the catastrophe of suicide for those who survive: not only the loss of someone, but the loss of the chance to persuade that person to act differently, the loss of the chance to connect.

Andrew Solomon

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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Clinical Psychologist
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Sometimes, people end up thankful for what they mourned. You cannot achieve this state by seeking tragedy, but you can keep yourself open more to sorrow's richness than to unmediated despair. Tragedies with happy endings may be sentimental tripe, or they may be the true meaning of love.
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Listen to the people who love you. Believe that they are worth living for even when you don't believe it.
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Some people are trapped by the belief that love comes in finite quantities, and that our kind of love exhausts the supply upon which they need to draw. I do not accept competitive models of love, only additive ones.
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A large proportion of my best friends are a little bit crazy. ... I try to be cautious with my friends who are too sane. Depression is itself destructive, and it breeds destructive impulses: I am easily disappointed in people who don't get it.
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I felt like all of the work was training for just one central idea: Accept your child for who he is. I'm not saying that I've done a brilliant job with that. But I've done my best.
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Religion is so focused on family. These days, for many people, being gay is also focused on family.
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I tend to find the ecstasy hidden in ordinary joys, because I did not expect those joys to be ordinary to me.
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A lot of people are very political when they are young, and then they outgrow it.
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I'm a huge believer in science. But I don't think it explains everything.
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And I found out about the wonderful world of sign language. I suddenly realized: If we as a society recognize Jewish culture, gay culture and Latino culture, we must recognize that this is a coherent culture, too. I think deafness is a disability for social constructionist reasons.
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The absence of words is the absence of intimacy. There are experiences that are starved for language.
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I found it very comforting to see that there is no such thing as a completely normal family. People find their way through whatever the differences may be.
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Being gay is immutable. Maybe someday we'll figure out more of the science and it will be changeable, but we have no leads so far.
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It is nearly impossible to hate anyone whose story you know.
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There is neither a cure for nor a way to repair autism. There is no implant like there is for the deaf.
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Kids with Down syndrome are, by and large, quite affectionate and relatively guileless, and frequently, the attachments to them grow and deepen. And the meaning that parents find in it grows and deepens.
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I hate the comparative idea that you have to love your spouse more than you love your parents.
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