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Fixing is the illness model acceptance is the identity model which way any family goes reflects their assumptions and resources.

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
Author
Clinical Psychologist
Journalist
Novelist
Writer
Manhattan borough
New York City
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Acceptance
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Fixing
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Family
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Illness

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