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The most important thing to remember about depression is this: you do not get the time back. It is not tacked on at the end of your life to make up for the disaster years. Whatever time is eaten by a depression is gone forever. The minutes that are ticking by as you experience the illness are minutes you will not know again.

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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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Clinical Psychologist
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