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Some people are trapped by the belief that love comes in finite quantities, and that our kind of love exhausts the supply upon which they need to draw. I do not accept competitive models of love, only additive ones.
Andrew Solomon
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Andrew Solomon
Age: 61
Born: 1963
Born: October 30
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I believe that words are strong, that they can overwhelm what we fear when fear seems more awful than life is good.
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Our needs are our greatest asset. It turns out I've learned to give all the things that I need.
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