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When a friend is sick, I see the situation for what it is, not what it isn't, and I offer to help as much as she wants, not as much as I want.

Andrew Bernstein

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Andrew Bernstein
Age: 65
Born: 1959
Born: June 6
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Philosopher
University Teacher
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During the financial crisis, I worked with hundreds of executives who struggled as a result of their thoughts about job security. When their beliefs changed, so did their emotional experience - and they were then able to focus on the task at hand more effectively.
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... statism systematically violates the rights of individuals and is, therefore, immoral. Because it suppresses the mind and violates men's rights, it thereby causes abysmal poverty and is utterly impractical.
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If you're successful and stressed out, you're succeeding in spite of your stress, not because of it.
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