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Stress is never a given. There are people who get divorced amicably. There are people who pack up and move with no emotional toll. There is no stressor 'out there' in the world. We experience stress - or we don't - depending on what we believe.

Andrew Bernstein

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Andrew Bernstein
Age: 65
Born: 1959
Born: June 6
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