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Find the beliefs that are strangling your feelings, challenge them for your sake as well as theirs, and see how it feels to love someone without a thought about the future, simply for who they are today.

Andrew Bernstein

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Andrew Bernstein
Age: 65
Born: 1959
Born: June 6
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