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Remember that stress doesn't come from what's going on in your life. It comes from your thoughts about what's going on in your life.

Andrew Bernstein

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Andrew Bernstein
Age: 65
Born: 1959
Born: June 6
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Negative thoughts stick around because we believe them, not because we want them or choose them.
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People around the world now complain about stressors everyday, and the word shows up throughout professional and lay literature. But in reality there is no such thing as a stressor. Why not? Because nothing has the inherent power to provoke stress.
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A hero has faced it all: he need not be undefeated, but he must be undaunted.
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The less you think counterfactually, the less you experience stress. Stress, in this light, isn't a bad thing. It's simply a warning system telling you that your mind has lost touch with what's real.
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The truth is that stress doesn't come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about these circumstances.
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Stress is the negative whirlwind of emotions that gets imposed on top of our stimulation and engagement.
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A hero holds purposes appropriate to man and is, therefore, a thinker.
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You might think that shifting your thoughts is as easy as setting your mind to it. But stressful thoughts aren't held in place through choice or will power. They're held in place through perceived truth value.
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Find the beliefs that are strangling your feelings, challenge them for your sake as well as theirs, and see how it feels to love someone without a thought about the future, simply for who they are today.
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We all enjoy pushing ourselves to accomplish our objectives. But we don't need stress to get there.
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During the financial crisis, I worked with hundreds of executives who struggled as a result of their thoughts about job security. When their beliefs changed, so did their emotional experience - and they were then able to focus on the task at hand more effectively.
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The elusive truth is that there is nothing stress-producing in the physical world. Things simply are. Molecules move. Light and sound appear.
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Even in this secular country, the threat posed by religious fundamentalists is never very far away. Every major religious text exhorts the same principles - that of unyielding obedience to a supernatural being, and renunciation of the intellect and personal aspirations.
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Look closer at the stress in your own life and you can identify that negative emotions are always built on counterfactual statements.
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The reason humans experience so much more stress than other species isn't just because we think more, but also because we think differently.
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The hero is valorous because he stands up to every threat directed against his values. Heroism requires value conflict.
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If you're successful and stressed out, you're succeeding in spite of your stress, not because of it.
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When a friend is sick, I see the situation for what it is, not what it isn't, and I offer to help as much as she wants, not as much as I want.
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