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The Chinese mom is not the helicopter mom. I would never do their homework for them. It's all about: Take responsibility, don't blame others. Be self-reliant. Never blame the teacher.

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Amy Chua
Age: 62
Born: 1962
Born: October 26
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Illinois
Amy L. Chua
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