Quote

All decent parents want to do what's best for their children. The Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that.

Amy Chua

Change background

T
T
T

Change font

TAGS & TOPICS

Amy Chua
Age: 62
Born: 1962
Born: October 26
Economist
Lawyer
Professor
University Teacher
Writer
Champaign
Illinois
Amy L. Chua
Different
Chinese
Totally
Parents
Parent
Idea
Best
Ideas
Children
Decent

More quotes by Amy Chua

Image
I worry that by losing my temper so much and being so harsh and yelling so much that, by example, I will have taught my daughters to be that way, and I'm now constantly telling them not to do that.
Amy Chua
Image
Parenting is the hardest thing I have ever done. I tried to find the balance between the strict, traditional Chinese way I was raised, which I think can be too harsh, and what I see as a tendency in the West to be too permissive and indulgent. If I could do it all again, I would, with some adjustments.
Amy Chua
Image
Never complain or make excuses. If something seems unfair, just prove yourself by working twice as hard and being twice as good.
Amy Chua
Image
Westerners often laud their children as 'talented' or 'gifted', while Asian parents highlight the importance of hard work. And in fact, research performed by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck has found that the way parents offer approval affects the way children perform, even the way they feel about themselves.
Amy Chua
Image
I am definitely a Type A personality, always rushing around, trying to do too much, not good at just lying on the beach. But I'm so thankful for everything I have: wonderfully supportive parents and sisters, the best husband in the world, terrific students I love teaching and hanging out with, and above all, my two amazing daughters.
Amy Chua
Image
When my kids wanted to give up on things, I wouldn't let them, and those are lifelong lessons.
Amy Chua
Image
Don't assume your child is weak. If you, the parent, assume that they can't take anymore, what kind of signal are you sending them?
Amy Chua
Image
Be modest, be humble, be simple.
Amy Chua
Image
I'm suggesting that, ironically, the secret to becoming a world 'hyperpower' is tolerance. If you look at history, you see great powers being very tolerant in their rise to global dominance.
Amy Chua
Image
We all want to do the right thing for our children. We all don't know what that is and we all - you know, you won't know until the future.
Amy Chua
Image
Parenting cannot just be one size fits all.
Amy Chua
Image
I see my upbringing as a great success story. By disciplining me, my parents inculcated self-discipline. And by restricting my choices as a child, they gave me so many choices in my life as an adult. Because of what they did then, I get to do the work I love now.
Amy Chua
Image
Nothing is fun until you're good at it.
Amy Chua
Image
A Western upbringing tends to stress questioning authority, which is always asking why, why, why.
Amy Chua
Image
I say 'I love you' to my daughters every day.
Amy Chua
Image
I think the biggest difference is that I've noticed Western parents seem much more concerned about their children's psyches, their self-esteem, whereas tough immigrant parents assume strength rather than fragility in their children and therefore behave completely differently.
Amy Chua
Image
To be honest, I know that a lot of Asian parents are secretly shocked and horrified by many aspects of Western parenting.
Amy Chua
Image
I think if you're a 'tiger parent' early on, you don't need to be a 'helicopter parent' in high school.
Amy Chua
Image
I once won a second prize in a history concert. My parents came to the ceremony. Somebody else had won the prize for best all-around student. Afterwards my father said to me, 'Never, ever disgrace me like that again.' When I tell my Western friends, they are aghast. But I adore my father. It didn't knock my self-esteem at all.
Amy Chua
Image
I do play tennis, but I don't really like competition. I'm supposed to be so intense, but I hate competition.
Amy Chua