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There is a tension between our desire to get our kids to turn out a particular way versus letting them develop to be their own person. If there were a pill that would make my child turn out the way I wanted, I'm not sure I'd take it.

Alison Gopnik

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Alison Gopnik
Age: 69
Born: 1955
Born: June 16
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Philadelphia
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