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We provide a secure, stable space for children to grow up in, so children will be able to take risks and have adventures and do things that are unexpected. If there isn't a risk that your children can fail, then you haven't succeeded as a parent.

Alison Gopnik

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Alison Gopnik
Age: 69
Born: 1955
Born: June 16
Psychologist
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Philadelphia
Pennsylvania
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One of the most distinctive evolutionary features of human beings is our unusually long, protected childhood.
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