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To support the people we care about is intrinsic, it is not instrumental. It's not something we do because we're hoping to get some other outcome.

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Alison Gopnik
Age: 69
Born: 1955
Born: June 16
Psychologist
University Teacher
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Philadelphia
Pennsylvania
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I'm afraid the parenting advice to come out of developmental psychology is very boring: pay attention to your kids and love them.
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