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We don't measure the quality of our other relationships by how well the other person turns out, for instance whether my husband is a better person after 10 years than he was when I first met him.

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Alison Gopnik
Age: 69
Born: 1955
Born: June 16
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To support the people we care about is intrinsic, it is not instrumental. It's not something we do because we're hoping to get some other outcome.
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I'm afraid the parenting advice to come out of developmental psychology is very boring: pay attention to your kids and love them.
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We fear death so profoundly, not because it means the end of our body, but because it means the end of our consciousness - better to be a spirit in Heaven than a zombie on Earth.
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One of the most distinctive evolutionary features of human beings is our unusually long, protected childhood.
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