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Becoming an adult means leaving the world of your parents and starting to make your way toward the future that you will share with your peers.

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Alison Gopnik
Age: 69
Born: 1955
Born: June 16
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Philadelphia
Pennsylvania
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Owning our past allows us to own our future.
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Animals are certainly more sophisticated than we used to think. And we shouldn't lump together animals as a group. Crows and chimps and dogs are all highly intelligent in very different ways.
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Instead of just saying, I love my baby and I pick him up because he's adorable and it's so nice to cuddle with him, we practice attachment parenting. We let our children play outside and have age-appropriate freedoms and are labeled free-range parents.
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One of the most distinctive evolutionary features of human beings is our unusually long, protected childhood.
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To support the people we care about is intrinsic, it is not instrumental. It's not something we do because we're hoping to get some other outcome.
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The brain knows the real secret of seduction, more effective than even music and martinis. Just keep whispering, 'Gee, you are really special' to that sack of water and protein that is a body, and you can get it to do practically anything.
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We know that kids who grow up in an environment of warmth and support will thrive and function in whatever environment they find themselves. What we need to do is to do more to help poor kids have such an environment.
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From an evolutionary perspective children are, literally, designed to learn. Childhood is a special period of protected immaturity. It gives the young breathing time to master the things they will need to know in order to survive as adults.
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I'm afraid the parenting advice to come out of developmental psychology is very boring: pay attention to your kids and love them.
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