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I'm afraid the parenting advice to come out of developmental psychology is very boring: pay attention to your kids and love them.

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Alison Gopnik
Age: 69
Born: 1955
Born: June 16
Psychologist
University Teacher
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Philadelphia
Pennsylvania
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