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Emotional access to the truth is the indispensable precondition of healing.

Alice Miller

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Alice Miller
Age: 87 †
Born: 1923
Born: January 12
Died: 2010
Died: April 14
Painter
Psychologist
Sociologist
Writer
Piotrkow Trybunalski
Indispensable
Healing
Access
Emotional
Truth
Precondition

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