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We can never do the right thing as long as we are out to please someone else.

Alice Miller

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Alice Miller
Age: 87 †
Born: 1923
Born: January 12
Died: 2010
Died: April 14
Painter
Psychologist
Sociologist
Writer
Piotrkow Trybunalski
Please
Else
Someone
Right
Thing
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Never
Esteem

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