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Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.

Alice Miller

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Alice Miller
Age: 87 †
Born: 1923
Born: January 12
Died: 2010
Died: April 14
Painter
Psychologist
Sociologist
Writer
Piotrkow Trybunalski
Anger
Head
Faces
Doe
Forgiven
Forgiveness
Genuine
Deny

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