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To feel controlled is to lose interest.

Alfie Kohn

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Alfie Kohn
Age: 67
Born: 1957
Born: October 15
Author
Teacher
Writer
Miami Beach
Florida
Inspirational
Feel
Feels
Controlled
Lose
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Interest

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