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When people change their irrational beliefs to undogmatic flexible preferences, they become less disturbed.
Albert Ellis
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Albert Ellis
Age: 93 †
Born: 1913
Born: September 27
Died: 2007
Died: July 24
Behaviour Therapist
Cognitive Scientist
Non-Fiction Writer
Psychologist
Sex Educator
Pittsburg
Pennsylvania
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I would have liked having children to some degree, but frankly I haven't got the time to take the kids to the goddamn ballgame.
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Even injustice has it's good points. It gives me the challenge of being as happy as I can in an unfair world.
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