Quote

People are terrified of other people or difficult projects because they tell themselves that they could fail or be rejected. Failure can lead to sorrow, regret, frustration and annoyance-all healthy feelings without which people couldn't exist.

Albert Ellis

Change background

T
T
T

Change font

TAGS & TOPICS

Albert Ellis
Age: 93 †
Born: 1913
Born: September 27
Died: 2007
Died: July 24
Behaviour Therapist
Cognitive Scientist
Non-Fiction Writer
Psychologist
Sex Educator
Pittsburg
Pennsylvania
Tell
Lead
Annoyance
Without
Exist
Terrified
People
Failure
Rejected
Failing
Frustration
Couldn
Fail
Healthy
Regret
Difficult
Projects
Feelings
Sorrow

More quotes by Albert Ellis

Image
I'm one of the best-loved psychologists in the United States, but I'm also probably the most hated one.
Albert Ellis
Image
Most things worth having require some sacrifice, usually more than you expect.
Albert Ellis
Image
You never truly need what you want. That is the main and thoroughgoing key to serenity.
Albert Ellis
Image
Worrying about dying will hardly help you live.
Albert Ellis
Image
I thought foolishly that Freudian psychoanalysis was deeper and more intensive than other, more directive forms of therapy, so I was trained in it and practiced it.
Albert Ellis
Image
Spirit and soul is horseshit of the worst sort. Obviously there are no fairies, no Santa Clauses, no spirits. What there is, is human goals and purposes as noted by sane existentialists. But a lot of transcendentalists are utter screwballs.
Albert Ellis
Image
There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.
Albert Ellis
Image
I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it - going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert.
Albert Ellis
Image
I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs.
Albert Ellis
Image
The more sinful and guilty a person tends to feel, the less chance there is that he will be a happy, healthy, or law-abiding citizen. He will become a compulsive wrong-doer.
Albert Ellis
Image
By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future benefit.
Albert Ellis
Image
You have considerable power to construct self-helping thoughts, feelings and actions as well as to construct self-defeating behaviors. You have the ability, if you use it, to choose healthy instead of unhealthy thinking, feeling and acting.
Albert Ellis
Image
Thinking rationally is often different from positive thinking, in that it is a realistic assessment of the situation, with a view towards rectifying the problem if possible.
Albert Ellis
Image
The goal of all life is to have a ball.
Albert Ellis
Image
I had a great many sex and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in love didn't love them back. They were killing themselves with anxiety and depression.
Albert Ellis
Image
In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that paid for therapy. Now they belong to HMOs, and we can only be affiliated with a few HMOs.
Albert Ellis
Image
And just as two wrongs don't make a right, rage against offenders is probably the worst way to try to correct them.
Albert Ellis
Image
There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women or that men are more willing to surrender their irrational beliefs. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.
Albert Ellis
Image
Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny.
Albert Ellis
Image
If the Martians ever find out how human beings think, they'll kill themselves laughing.
Albert Ellis