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In fact most of what we call anxiety is overconcern about what someone thinks of you.

Albert Ellis

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Albert Ellis
Age: 93 †
Born: 1913
Born: September 27
Died: 2007
Died: July 24
Behaviour Therapist
Cognitive Scientist
Non-Fiction Writer
Psychologist
Sex Educator
Pittsburg
Pennsylvania
Anxiety
Thinks
Worry
Call
Fact
Facts
Someone
Thinking

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