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Needing leads to bleeding - to almost all inevitable suffering.

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Albert Ellis
Age: 93 †
Born: 1913
Born: September 27
Died: 2007
Died: July 24
Behaviour Therapist
Cognitive Scientist
Non-Fiction Writer
Psychologist
Sex Educator
Pittsburg
Pennsylvania
Suffering
Needing
Bleeding
Inevitable
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Acceptance
Almost

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I had used eclectic therapy and behavior therapy on myself at the age of 19 to get over my fear of public speaking and of approaching young women in public.
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Happiness is experienced largely in striving towards a goal, not in having attained things, because our nature is always to want to go on to the next endeavor.
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Being assertive does not mean attacking or ignoring others feelings. It means that you are willing to hold up for yourself fairly-without attacking others.
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Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years.
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If you would stop, really stop, damning yourself, others, and unkind conditions, you would find it almost impossible to upset yourself emotionally - about anything. Yes, anything.
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The world consists mainly of love slobs who need other people's approval. Most people don't live their own lives very well.
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Freud had a gene for inefficiency, and I think I have a gene for efficiency.
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And just as two wrongs don't make a right, rage against offenders is probably the worst way to try to correct them.
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