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Needing leads to bleeding - to almost all inevitable suffering.

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Albert Ellis
Age: 93 †
Born: 1913
Born: September 27
Died: 2007
Died: July 24
Behaviour Therapist
Cognitive Scientist
Non-Fiction Writer
Psychologist
Sex Educator
Pittsburg
Pennsylvania
Needing
Bleeding
Inevitable
Leads
Acceptance
Almost
Suffering

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Even when people act nastily to you, don't condemn them or retaliate.
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