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We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming - or damning.
Albert Ellis
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Albert Ellis
Age: 93 †
Born: 1913
Born: September 27
Died: 2007
Died: July 24
Behaviour Therapist
Cognitive Scientist
Non-Fiction Writer
Psychologist
Sex Educator
Pittsburg
Pennsylvania
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Actually
Damning
Blaming
Neurosis
Blame
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I regret that I've been so busy with clinical work that I haven't been able to spend much time on experiments and outcome studies.
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